More rules for women
It’s possible that I just haven’t had enough coffee this morning, but this column in the Globe really irks me. Giving older women a version of ‘The Rules’ is not just offensive to older women but manages to slam all younger women as heartless, marriage-hungry skanks:
Act your age. Younger women have their youth. You have your humanity. “If you’re not most human at 40, 45, 50, you will never be human,” observes a male acquaintance in his 50s. “Younger women are sperm foraging. With older women, you hope for a heart. You hope that they have been disillusioned by power, as you have been, if you are self-aware. To meet an older woman with those attributes is like sitting in a broken-in seat in a car. New leather is slippery. But a broken-in seat, well, there’s nothing more comfortable and nothing more personal.”
Ah, there’s nothing so charming as being compared to a broken-in car seat! There are even tips on what hair colours are acceptable to men… unfreakin’ believable! And of course Ladies, remember your place:
Just because you’re accomplished, do not take control of the dating ritual. You may be used to making things happen in your family life and your professional life, but this is one area where you must remain passive.
“The stalker,” shudders a man, remembering the experience of one.
“A lot of women who are over 40 are so desperate, they become too pro-active,” says Ms. Schneider, weighing in on the subject. “They have money, and they want to be powerful in a relationship. But it’s about letting the men pursue you. That’s your power.”
You know what…I better go get some coffee before I have an apoplectic fit.